Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Mothers work
Well yesterday and today have been tough . . . I woke up yesterday with a stiff neck and shoulder. Now this condition is not good to have with a toddler and 2 month old, but none the less I had it. I took some ibuprofen and that helped some . . . thank goodness. So I want to know how do moms of two do it? I mean when I was a new mom with my first it was hard. Now it seems impossible on some days as Seth is crying and Jasmine is disobeying me for the millionth time. I think about what to make for dinner, going grocery shopping, laundry, my carpet hasn't been vacuumed in too long, etc. I am so very thankful that my hubby helps me when he is home (he is SO awesome!), but still how do moms get this all done? I know that my lack of good sleep makes me look at my situation in an even more negative light. I know that my patience is getting tried as my daughter tests her boundaries time and time again. Just when I think I have had it . . . Seth gives me the biggest smile and my heart melts. He is just so handsome. Or Jasmine wants to snuggle and read a book . . . I just love that little girl . . . she brings me so much joy. I know I will never have a perfectly clean home unless we have a maid (I don't see our budget ever having room for that). I know that sometimes I will lose my cool with the kids. I know that it is okay to still have your PJ's on when your hubby comes home and even to wonder if you brushed your teeth in the morning. I have to remember that it is okay not to be perfect . . . no one really is. I do praise the Lord for His blessings of my family and also the strength to get through these sometimes difficult days.
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you are not alone, girl! It is so hard, i think especially with babies close together like me and you have. Sometimes i look at other moms totally puzzled at how they do it. One day here will be great, and the next day i feel like i am drowning. I just tell myself this is a season, things will get easier, and in the meantime i try to treasure all those sweet baby smiles and precious cuddle times. :) You are a great mommy and your babies are blessed to have you!
ReplyDeleteTwo words... grandma's house! When Charlotte was a month old, Caroline went and spent a couple days with Granny. It was the refreshing break I needed. I got some nice alone time with Charlotte, extra sleep, and was also able to have the freedom to figure out the schedule Charlotte wanted.
ReplyDeleteCaroline had been home with us from day one, but it was nice to send her away for a couple days. It also gave us a fresh start on a few of our routines when she came home - like giving up her potty seat and pull-ups.
Okay, here are my other practical tips.
ReplyDeleteI menu planned and grocery shopped for two weeks at a time.
I had a goal of one load of laundry per day and Kevin's job was to get it put away after I had it folded all over our bed.
Put on Letter Factory for J and get a shower and dressed during Seth's first nap. You'll feel like a new person.
I kept reminding myself that lots of people have two kids so it must be doable. Sometimes they are both fussing at you and you just have to take a deep breath while they both wait. It's okay to checkout for a second.
Thank you for the words of encouragement and practical tips. I needed them. You moms are awesome!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your frustrations, Marianne. even though my situation is a little different, I do think it will get easier for you as Seth gets older. By the time he is one, you will be getting out of the house more and feeling like you can "manage" a little easier. I think the Lord gives us this time at the beginning of a new baby's life just to sit and enjoy him. Just soak up all that goodness with your unbrushed teeth and in your pjs. :-) One day, when we are old and our children are grown, we will fondly miss these new crazy months after our babies were born. :-)
ReplyDeleteRonda